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Fred’s Distilled Valuable Lessons Of 51 Years Of life

 



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Happy Birthday To Me


Early Childhood Memories

I was born on a Thursday in 1974 at Harare Hospital. My parents lived in Tafara, but my memories of that time are faint. However, I vividly remember moments from 1977 when we lived in Zengeza 2, Chikunguru street. My sharp memory also recalls our move to Zengeza 3 in 1978, when my only sister was born. Even at a young age, I demonstrated a talent for storytelling and narration, skills that would eventually blossom into my writing and music.


Challenges and Triumphs

My first infant challenge was being raised in the Liberation Struggle.  Bullying took its toll again, which left me eager to outgrow infancy and end the teasing. Fortunately, I didn’t face significant learning challenges in primary school, thanks in part to my excellent first teacher, the late Mr. Dzvengwe. My desire to learn and grow only intensified as I progressed through school. However, secondary school presented new obstacles, particularly when I was sent to a boarding school where I struggled to find my place among the children of wealthy businesspeople. Despite these challenges, I persevered and managed to achieve 5 O Levels in one sitting.


Career and Passions

My professional journey began when I was employed as a general hand at Olivine Industries. This role opened my eyes to the world of commerce and sparked my interest in marketing and business management. I pursued these passions, becoming a qualified marketer and development practitioner. My involvement in social marketing and advocacy for development has been a highlight of my career. In recent years, I discovered a new passion for creative expression, including writing, song writing, singing, poetry, and music management. These talents have become an integral part of my life, allowing me to tap into my imagination and connect with others on a deeper level.


Literary and Musical Pursuits

I have also been working on several creative projects, including:


“Fight Adversaries And Become Your Own Leader," a self-help book that aims to inspire readers to take control of their lives.

- "Sarudzai," a Shona novel that explores themes of love, family, and identity.

- "Akua," an English novel that tells a true story of women's empowerment through love, highlighting the transformative power of love and relationships in overcoming adversity.

- A poetry collection that showcases my creative expression and emotional depth.

- My music, which can be found on YouTube, and features a unique blend of traditional and contemporary styles.

These projects have allowed me to express myself in new and innovative ways, and I am excited to share them with the world in the near future.


Relationships and Love

I got married in 1999, but the marriage lasted only nine years. The divorce was a turning point in my life, forcing me to re-evaluate my priorities and goals. Although it wasn’t easy, I emerged from this experience stronger and more resilient. I remarried and am grateful to have found happiness once more. Through my experiences, I’ve come to understand that love requires forgiveness, compromise, and a willingness to grow together. 


“Love is the ability to forgo the weaknesses of others and work to stop being affected'’.


Personal Growth and Lessons

My life has taught me the importance of self-reliance, resilience, and adaptability. I’ve learned to focus on my own growth and development, rather than comparing myself to others. By embracing my unique strengths and talents, I’ve been able to overcome obstacles and achieve my goals. I’ve also come to appreciate the value of creativity and self-expression, which have brought joy and fulfillment to my life.


Resilience and Perseverance

Throughout my journey, I’ve relied on my inner strength and determination to overcome challenges. I’ve learned to trust myself and my abilities, even when faced with uncertainty. My late-discovered talents for writing, music, and creative expression have become a source of inspiration and motivation, reminding me that it’s never too late to pursue new passions and interests.





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