Hiding the Truth and Short-Lived Benefits

Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga

Intentionally making wrong decisions to gain undeservedly may seem tempting, but the benefits are fleeting. Life has a natural equilibrium where justice prevails, and wrongdoing ultimately catches up with us.

We often convince ourselves that we would have achieved our goals anyway, but the truth is, shortcuts and dishonest means may provide temporary advantages, but they undermine our character and integrity.

Driving Forces of Wrongdoing

Reflecting on my personal experiences, I realized that feelings of inferiority and inadequacy can drive us to wrongdoing. For instance:

- Economic pressure: I recall feeling embarrassed about my economic status and trying to keep up appearances by cheating my parents.

- Desire and longing: A person may cheat or steal to acquire something they desire, such as luxury items or attention.

- Cover-up: When faced with severe consequences, individuals may try to destroy evidence or hide the truth to avoid accountability.

- Insufficiency: Taking shortcuts to achieve financial gain or success can lead to wrongdoing.

- Status seeking: The desire to maintain a certain image or status can drive people to engage in dishonest behaviour.

- Defeat and revenge: The shame and powerlessness that come with defeat can motivate individuals to seek revenge through wrongful means.

These driving forces can lead us down a slippery slope, but recognizing them is the first step towards making positive changes and cultivating a stronger sense of integrity. Our integrity is more valuable and it lasts even to next generations. A good name attracts money

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