Beware: You Fix Them, They Fix You Too

Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga

The intention to cause others consequences usually carries reciprocal repercussions. Seeking revenge by “fixing” someone can backfire, leading to reciprocated harm.

Plotting against others is a perilous game. Your actions won’t fall on deaf ears or inert objects; they’ll impact someone equally capable of reacting. Before taking action, consider:

1. The rights of all parties involved.

2. The potential consequences of your actions.

3. Whether you could easily accept similar treatment.

Correcting oneself is crucial. When criticized for wrongdoing, acknowledge your mistakes and make amends. Attempting to deceive others with further lies only exacerbates the situation.

Silencing dissent is a dangerous game, leading to severe repercussions.

The Double Tragedy of Fixing Others

When you attempt to “fix” someone, whether through revenge, manipulation, or control, you risk unleashing a double tragedy:

Tragedy 1: Consequences of Your Actions

1. Deepening Severity: The consequences of your wrongdoing will intensify, leading to more severe repercussions.

2. Loss of Wealth: The resources you use to manipulate others are unnecessary costs that could be used to develop your legacy.

3. Damages Will Be Demanded: If your actions are exposed, you may be required to pay damages or compensation to those you’ve harmed.

4. Emotional and Mental Harm: Facing consequences can cause emotional distress, anxiety, or mental health issues, affecting social cohesion.

5. Reprimand: You may face formal reprimands, disciplinary actions, or even legal repercussions.

Tragedy 2: Unintended Consequences and Backlash

1. Escalation: Your actions may escalate the situation, meeting equal resilience and leading to further conflict and harm.

2. Loss of Relationships: You may damage or lose relationships, including friends, family, or colleagues, rendering your skills redundant.

3. Internal Conflict: Your actions may lead to internal conflict, guilt, or shame, affecting your mental health and well-being.

4. Cycle of Revenge: Your actions may create a cycle of revenge, where others seek to “fix” you in return, leading to further harm and conflict. Those you’ve previously oppressed may seize the opportunity to retaliate.

5. Damage to Your Own Character: Your actions may damage your character, leading to a loss of integrity, empathy, and compassion.

By understanding the double tragedy of fixing others, you can see the importance of seeking constructive and respectful ways to address conflicts and issues.

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