Pierce Through Your Past and Control Your Future

Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga

Why do we feel indebted to the past? The truth is, ideologies, cultural norms, and resource allocation models that were relevant yesterday may no longer serve us today. Resolutions made in the past can become outdated, leading to diminishing benefits and a struggle to make a meaningful living.

The only way to break free from this cycle is to forge new resolutions, seek fresh resources, and chart a new course. It’s futile to cling to the past, as it’s a place we no longer inhabit.

Here are five reasons why we often find ourselves stuck in the past:

1. The Gospel of Self-Reliance is Discouraged: We’re often conditioned to prioritize others’ expectations over our own aspirations. It’s essential to reclaim our autonomy and make choices that align with our values.

2. Culture is Regarded as Compulsory, Yet it’s Dynamic: Cultural norms evolve over time. What was relevant in the past may no longer be beneficial today. It’s crucial to adapt and adopt new mechanisms that offer improved benefits.

3. Fear of Being an Outcast: Breaking away from the norm can lead to social ostracism. However, it’s essential to prioritize our own growth and well-being, even if it means embracing our individuality.

4. Fear of the Unknown: Venturing into uncharted territory can be daunting. However, it’s often necessary for growth and progress.

5. Crafting Our Own Survival Feels Like Disobedience: We’re often taught to follow established rules and norms. However, true freedom lies in creating our own path and forging our own survival strategies.

The fact that we each have unique experiences, perspectives, and strengths means we shouldn’t be bound by the same limitations. It’s not a crime to innovate and create a winning formula. In fact, it’s often necessary for success.

As the saying goes, “You have to work for it, you have to be innovative to live.” So, let’s break free from the shackles of the past and forge a brighter, more empowering future.

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