Reserve Power: Betrayal Beckons

Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga

You are the only person who has 100% of your interests at heart. When you're let down, you feel the pain and loss deeply. Disappointments will recur, and there will come a time when no one will support you. But life shouldn't cease because of lack of support; instead, it should propel you forward because you have a purpose.

The moment you realize your life functions for you, you can survive any betrayal. You need the power to stand as the last guardian of your interests when no one supports you.

The River Analogy

Consider a river: when it runs deep, people revere it, and fish thrive. But when it runs dry, people walk over it with ease. Similarly, when you're in a position of strength or abundance, people may admire and support you. However, when you're struggling or vulnerable, they may abandon or exploit you.

A wise farmer knows to reservoir water for future use, rather than relying on a stream that may dry up during droughts. Likewise, it's essential to build your own reserves of power, resources, and support, rather than relying solely on others.

How to Reserve Power

1. Be Selfish: When it comes to reserves, prioritize yourself. Power is the ability to influence. Even in the face of betrayal, maintain the influence to walk towards your goals without support.

2. Buffer Ulterior Motives: Observe why people surround you. Create space and develop skills that don't rely on others. This buffer will help you accept betrayal without unnecessary attachment.

3. Be Uncommon: Be creative and inventive. Develop a unique product or service that resonates with those who betrayed you. They will return, seeking the value you offer.

The Support Principle

When people benefit from you, they offer support in return. To maintain this support, always reserve some of your energy and resources. This ensures you continue to be a source of benefit to those around you.

Key Takeaways

- Prioritize yourself and your interests.

- Maintain influence and control over your life.

- Develop unique skills and offerings.

- Reserve energy and resources to maintain support.

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