Live for yourself though among others

Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga

Introduction

Your own gains matter most out of your life, the resources, happiness, the challenges and the wars you have to engage. The choice lies in you to decide on what you want to achieve from your life.

Key Points

1. Personal agency: Recognizing that choices and decisions we make have a direct impact on our lives. Whether someone has misled you the impact will affect you.

2. Self-awareness: Understanding what we want to achieve and what truly matters to us. But it is important to understand what environment you are in and what is against or for your achievements.

3. Prioritization: Focusing on our own goals, happiness, and growth rather than solely on external expectations. Usually external expectations are not express but they come as pressure. There is no agreement but results are expected.

Casting Yourself Out of Implicit Expectations

The unspoken expectations are the most troublesome. The feeling of obligation is what needs to be cut away. Achieving what other people are expecting does not bring full benefits to you but to them. The scramble for resources and solutions is unending. It’s always good to negotiate win-win situations.

Navigating Your Environment

The reason why we have others is for support. If there is no support, then we are fighting. There must be different approaches to people who fight us and those who support us.

Strategies for Success

1. Fish out adversaries: Identify those who oppose or hinder your progress.

2. Identify support: Recognize those who support and uplift you.

3. Court support: Nurture and strengthen relationships with those who support you.

4. Outsmart adversaries: Develop strategies to overcome obstacles and challenges posed by those who oppose you.

Conclusion

Take control of your life by recognizing your personal agency, being self-aware, and prioritizing your goals. Navigate your environment by identifying supporters and adversaries, and negotiate win-win situations. By doing so, you’ll achieve a more fulfilling life that aligns with your values and aspirations.

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