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Guiltiness Makes You The Weaker

 




Written by Fred Farai Nyakudanga


When you are guilty, you become weaker than the one you wronged. This is because guilt can lead to feelings of vulnerability, defensiveness, and anxiety, ultimately eroding your confidence and power in relationships.


Avoid being on the wrong side of expectations. When you fail to meet expectations, whether intentionally or unintentionally, you can damage trust and credibility. This can lead to feelings of resentment and anger from others.


Do not raise hopes that you will comply. Being transparent and honest about your intentions and capabilities is crucial. Avoid making promises or commitments that you may not be able to keep, as this can lead to disappointment and mistrust.


It’s good to be open during deliberations. Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship or negotiation. Being transparent about your thoughts, feelings, and intentions can help build trust and foster constructive dialogue.


Key principles to uphold:


1. Be firm to say no: Setting healthy boundaries is essential in maintaining your integrity and avoiding exploitation. Practice assertive communication to express your needs and limits clearly. People are pleased with outcomes more than rhetoric.


2. Do not accept before deep considerations: Take the time to carefully evaluate opportunities, commitments, or agreements before accepting them. Consider the potential risks, benefits, and consequences to ensure that you’re making an informed decision.


3. Proffer your expectations in full: Clearly communicate your expectations, needs, and boundaries to avoid misunderstandings or conflicts. Be specific, direct, and respectful in your communication. Do leave your plight into the discretion of the other party. A lot of conflict arise from people who expect common sense.


4. Feel equal: Recognize your worth and value in any relationship or interaction. Avoid feeling inferior or superior to others, as this can lead to unhealthy dynamics and conflict. Place your interests equally important, never feel any burdensome for the feeling will allow the other party to cash in on. The moment you show you are not worthy no one will give it to you.


5. Take responsibility: Own up to your actions and their consequences. Taking responsibility demonstrates accountability, integrity, and maturity. It also helps to build trust and respect in relationships. Responsibility adds power because of the dependency and reliability people have on you.


Conclusion:


Recognizing the impact of guilt and taking proactive steps to maintain healthy relationships is crucial. By upholding these five key principles – being firm, considering deeply, communicating expectations, feeling equal, and taking responsibility – you can build trust, respect, and stronger relationships. Remember, taking responsibility and being accountable adds power and reliability to your interactions. By embracing these principles, you can navigate relationships with confidence and integrity.


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